Self-Love

All bad beliefs are rooted in self hate. Let me say that again. All bad beliefs are rooted in self hate.

Remember the bad belief “people don’t like me”? I would go as far to say “I don’t like me”. If I did I wouldn’t be worried about people liking me. Or I would assume they did because I like me.

Remember the bad belief “I’m not enough”? If I did love myself it would be incredibly obvious that I was enough and had always been.

Examples of self hate are:

• Self rejection
• Self abandonment
• Self loathing

When you practice self love and fully accept yourself you know that no one can reject, abandon or loathe you. That job is exclusively yours only. And you’re not doing it anymore.

You can’t reject me. That’s my job.

You can’t abandon me. That’s my job

You can’t loathe me. That’s my job

You can replace any of those negative words with other negative words and it would still stand.

As you can imagine learning to love yourself is great for you. What you may not realise is that it is also great for the people around you. When you truly love, forgive and accept yourself unconditionally you will see the world completely differently. When you love, forgive and accept yourself unconditionally you will do so to others. Any hate you see inside you, you see in others.

The outside world is a reflection of what’s going on inside.

You-inverse. When you love you the world is a beautiful fluffy place full of wonderful lovely people.

So how do you love yourself? Realising that your self hatred has to STOP. No more. It serves no purpose. The key to EVERYTHING is self love which will unlock you to everything you have ever wanted.

Part IV of this book is dedicated to self-love. Part IV makes up 50% of the text for this book. That is how important self love is. If you do not love yourself you will give up too soon.

Self love is the foundation of this whole process. The process of switching a bad belief into a good thought into a good belief.

So for example you are trying to switch the bad belief of “I’m not enough” to the good thought “I’m enough” but it just seems preposterous then you will just reject the thought very quickly.

I’ve touched on self-love here to give you a basic understanding but I suggest you fully indulge yourself in Part IV of this book. If you practise self-love and fall in love with yourself EVERYTHING will fall into place.

This is why this book is dedicated to me. I love myself and I’m proud to be me. I truly wish self-love to everyone on the planet. The world would become a more amazing place than it already is.

Now I think it is the right time to tell you about your conscious and subconscious mind.

The Conscious And The Subconscious Minds

Your mind is made up of two:

1. The conscious mind (5%)

2. The subconscious mind (95%)

The conscious mind is in charge of your awareness, logic and decision making. It is your conscious mind that is reading this book and trying to make sense of it. It's hard to believe but it processes only 5% of your mental activity.

The subconscious mind is a massive personal recorder that has recorded everything that has happened to you (some say it starts whilst in the womb) and uses this information to protect you. Here is where your beliefs are stored which influence your decision making at lightning speed. 95% of your mental activity happens here. To say your subconscious is important is an understatement.

Both bad beliefs and good beliefs (and neutral beliefs which we will ignore) are stored here. You will not know what most of these beliefs are. These beliefs got “programmed” whilst you were young and were deals you made with your caregivers to get love, food and attention.

So when you were rewarded with love, food and care by your mother for being quiet you learnt on a basic unsophisticated level “mummy likes it when I am quiet so I will try to be quiet”. This happens over a long time and on various personality traits with various caregivers and teachers.

This is why when you enter a seminar room with a group of adults everyone is quiet and polite. We all had the training from a young age. It is rare when someone has the guts to speak up.

OK. So I've given you some background about the conscious and more importantly the subconscious. I haven't dwelled on it here like a lot of other teachers. As it can become a bit heavy. If it sparked interest then read part III of this book. But needing to understand the subconscious in depth is definitely NOT a requirement to be free.

We have many thoughts. Supposedly around 60,000 thoughts a day. I know what around 500 of them are. But for the rest I have no idea. Anyhow a small proportion of thoughts become beliefs.

So what makes these thoughts so special? Good question! A thought becomes a belief when you connect it with a strong emotional reaction. Let's use an example close to my heart.

When I was around thirteen I went on a school trip. All the guys shared one room to sleep in. It was a dormitory. I got on with everyone and we all had a laugh. But one night was different. When the lights went out we all carried on chatting. About ten of us. But the direction of the conversation changed. It became making fun of me. I can't remember what it was about. I have only recently recalled this event. But from then on I had been hyper sensitive to a group poking fun at me. This rarely happens now and even when it does I don't care because I understand that there's a lot of love behind it as that's what you do when you are close. But when it's a group of males and certain types of males I'm wary.

My thought of “they going to make fun of me” consumed me. I was then looking for attacks from various sources. I started going into a downward spiral and it spoilt my day or night. And it's simply because I had a strong emotional reaction to a thought because I was young and did not to have access to mature reasoning. So I converted the thought into a belief.

We are all guilty of this. We are all big kids really operating on some stupid thoughts that were converted into beliefs when we were ill equipped to make that decision.

So your task is to identify your bad beliefs stored in our subconscious which you may not be consciously aware of and switch them around.