Now for the drum roll. Are you ready? Here we go…..
I’M IN CONTROL OF EVERYTHING I BELIEVE, THINK AND FEEL
Now let that sink in. Read it several times and try to understand it. Now let's break it down. I’ve bolded and underlined key words in this one belief to focus on:
I’M IN CONTROL OF EVERYTHING I BELIEVE, THINK AND FEEL
You are responsible for all your good and bad feelings. All your joy and suffering. All your excitement and disappointment. Not anyone else. Not any circumstance. All of your good and bad feelings are down to you. Own it.
Your beautiful caring wife does not give you joy.
You do.
Your alcoholic selfish husband does not give you suffering. You do.
That friend who pisses you off does not give you suffering. You do.
That shitty poorly paid job does not give you suffering.
You do.
Do you want me to carry on? Everything you feel is down to you and you only.
Did that land? Blame was your friend. I have just taken that privilege away from you. Blame was the easy way out. It's them. Not me. It's my circumstance. Not me. Sounds familiar? Once you remove the ability to blame, you then have to step up. Once you realise you are in control of your own joy and suffering then it becomes empowering. This is where it all changes.
I’M IN CONTROL OF EVERYTHING I BELIEVE, THINK AND FEEL
Perspective is everything. I'm sure you've heard that saying. What you believe and think determines how you feel. It has to be both what you believe and think. A thought with no belief has no power. A thought with belief has power. The power to create a feeling. The power to make you feel great. But also the power to feel sad. To cry. To be violent. To kill.
It's amazing how we have got here today and yet we hardly talk about it. One day I hope it will become mainstream and we will laugh about how we used to get so easily offended by a comment. A word. An outfit. A picture. A video. A song. Our beliefs and thoughts are so powerful that it has at best created things that save lives and at worst caused some to engage in world wars and mass murder.
What we believe and think are the most important aspects of our lives. To put an even finer point on it, Life is Beliefs as explained earlier. Your life is the sum of your results generated by your beliefs.
I’M IN CONTROL OF EVERYTHING I BELIEVE AND THINK AND FEEL
All of your good or bad feelings or any other mental joy and suffering comes from you. 100%. Not 50%. Not 99%. All of it. Not external factors. Not anyone else, thing or circumstance. All from within your mind. Scary eh? At first, yes. But this will move to curiosity, then to making sense, then to fascination and then to……freedom!
I've also restricted the good and bad feelings to mental only and not physical. Hence why I say feelings. If you burn your hand you suffer. Period!
Now I don't expect you to adopt this master belief just because I told you to. You can't trick your mind. Your mind is a sophisticated machine. It needs evidence. I will provide this evidence. I want you to examine the evidence. Think about the evidence. Challenge the evidence. And then come to a verdict. See the next chapter as jury service.
Currently for you this master belief is just a thought. It is a belief for me but I'm not you. For you it's just a thought. I hope it's a thought that you want to consider, examine and possibly adopt as a belief.
For a thought to stand any chance of becoming a belief it has to be believable. Only believable thoughts can become a belief. It’s a two stage process:
THOUGHT>>>BELIEVABLE THOUGHT>>>BELIEF
So is the thought:
I’M IN CONTROL OF EVERYTHING I BELIEVE, THINK AND FEEL
Believable? Let’s find out.
